I cannot imagine the hell of the adoption process... the hours of waiting, of hoping, of auditioning, in a sense, to get to be a parent. I cannot understand the absolute intensity of the emotional rollercoaster, and how anyone can put themselves through it, but I think if every parent had to go through this before having a child, the world might be better off... because parenting is very difficult work. I read excerpts of lives like Maria's in Transitions and Poop: She's Home -- at how she had the baby, then the adoptive mother changed her mind... and then realized that no, she couldn't parent and wanted Maria to have the baby after all... and I think I would have never been able to manage the kind of grace and unselfishness Maria has displayed here. Being concerned for the birth mom is a smart thing to do, of course, because it sets the tone for the relationship from then on, but it's obvious when I read stories like this that Maria cares and is trying very hard to do the very best she can for both the child / her child now, and the birth mother. It amazes me, that grace. That is a lucky child.
Posted by toni at March 1, 2004 02:50 PMGood read
Posted by: popup stopper at July 16, 2004 02:38 PM